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Mindfully Letting Go: 7 Signs It’s Time to Release

Part 8 of 10 in the Mindfulness Series

She asked, “Give me something I can hold onto forever.” He replied, “Let go.”

young girl releasing a red heart shaped balloon
Girl releasing a balloon

Many people come to therapy seeking clarity about their past and present to create the future they desire. This often involves examining their inner and outer worlds. Conflicts may arise between who they were, who they are, and who they want to be, and these conflicts can also involve others' perceptions and expectations.

In therapy, we explore the concept of letting go. This can be challenging, as clients may face distractions, attachments, codependency, and a fear of being alone. These issues can create confusion and delay necessary decisions and changes. Often, these unhealthy coping mechanisms stem from our family, relationships, or societal expectations.

This post delves into the practice of mindfully letting go by enhancing our consciousness of seven indicators.

Young monk boy releasing a white bird
Young monk releasing a white bird

So, how do we know when it’s time to let go? Here are seven signs:

1. It’s hurting you: When something causes internal or external suffering.

2. Change is out of reach: When you realize you can only change yourself, not others.

3. Efforts feel wasted: When your efforts don’t yield positive results.

4. Stagnation: When you feel stuck and unable to move forward.

5. Negative emotions dominate: When feelings of anger, sadness, or hopelessness prevail.

6. Acting against your values: When your actions contradict your core beliefs.

7. Negative situations persist: When you continually face difficult situations that are hard to reconcile.

When we don’t recognize ourselves, it’s a sign that our decisions, or the decisions others make for us, require us to re-establish balance and alignment in our lives.

Hands being freed in handcuffs with beautiful blue sky above
Hands being freed in handcuffs

It's important to note that while these signs can indicate it’s time to explore letting go, they can also serve as prompts to look more deeply at an issue. Sometimes, rather than letting go, it may be necessary to engage in deeper self-exploration and understanding to address the root causes of our struggles and make more informed decisions.


A crucial aspect of letting go is the practice of surrender. Surrendering is not about giving up; it’s about accepting what is and trusting the process of life. It means releasing our tight grip on outcomes and allowing ourselves to flow with life’s currents. By surrendering, we open ourselves to new possibilities and invite peace into our lives. It’s a courageous act of faith and an essential part of our healing journey.

Woman wearing a hat surrendering to nature
Woman surrendering to nature

My Guru teaches that we are divine beings. By practicing proper exercise, proper breathing, proper relaxation, proper diet, positive thinking, and meditation, we can achieve well-being. When we are well, it’s easier to discern when to let go of what no longer serves us.


Letting go is a profound act of self-compassion and growth. Seeking support is a sign of strength. If you’re struggling to let go or need help finding clarity and peace, consider reaching out. Together, we can work towards a future where you feel aligned with your true self and capable of embracing the life you desire.



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